Consider Saying No

While babies learn cute words like “momma” and “dada” over time, they quickly understand the power of “yes” and “no.” These words echo encouragement or quick corrections. They also propel actions, decisions, and have consequences.

I’d like to remind ourselves that we can wield these words. While they are commonplace, they should not be underestimated. We can use “yes” to create opportunities and “no” to prevent distractions from priorities.

Improvers, can you think of a time recently when you meant to say no, but instead—and perhaps even reflexively—said yes? What did it cost you? Time, money, sanity, peace of mind? What could have been different if you had instead declined? Should you have considered saying no?

Case in point:

Recently I had the opportunity to volunteer my time to a wonderful organization. When asked which dates I could make myself available, I offered 3 Saturday options. Historically, 1 date would be selected for a 4 to 8-hour obligation. This go-around, all 3 dates were selected for a full assignment amounting to 24 hours. To be precise, 24 *Saturday* hours. Unfortunately, once I realized my over commitment, I was already a part of the equation and could not withdraw without impact. I had not been clear enough and this was my mistake. I proceeded with a lesson gained.

Luckily, I enjoy this volunteer work, but it did have a cost to me, my family time, and my productivity. Spending 8-hour blocks on a Saturday fully unavailable to home or business demands not only changed my plans for Saturday but also Sunday (the chores must go on!). Ultimately, the full to-do list was no longer reasonable, but I was able to hunker down and take care of the necessary tasks.

The challenge

I challenge you to ask yourself 2 things when considering your future commitments: 1) the worthiness and 2) the cost. Depending on the answers, consider saying no. How could more careful consideration make a positive impact on your life?